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Pursuing Enlightenment Through The Adversity Of Intolerance

One thing people don't seem to realize throughout all the years of history they have accessible to them right at their fingertips is that stepping over the line of metaphysical personal space is a no no. Spending time and energy trying to influence people to change who they are or keep it to themselves is harmful both to the individuals targeted and civilization itself.

People seem to believe that making other people's life their business and judging their decisions has no effect unless they use physical coercion but that is not true. Psychology should have made that blatantly obvious even though it should have already been noticed before. Strangely, it continues to go by ignored by the masses.

The greatest people and contributors to society are those who weren't hampered by outside pressure. They let their thoughts and ideals flow into the betterment of our world. Maybe they knew how to keep the haters off their backs or maybe they were just a lucky few but judging by the trials many of them faced I'd say it was capability more than luck.

At this point, it is getting easier to confirm that people who oppress instead of tolerate know the impact they are having, do it intentionally and just act like they don't or deny it to protect themselves and further their cause of enslavement, depression and servitude. The best way to deal with them is to accept them and their cause, just not to join it. That way you'll be able to discern who's side the person you're dealing with is on in the moment instead of wasting your nights rehashing conversations and interactions you had that would have kept you up at night regardless.

Snagging The Subtleties Of Intolerance

There are many forms of intolerance that are easier to spot now thanks to the progress made in recent history but there are still some that are subtle enough to sink in and hard to publicize. You may already be familiar with them and I could be wrong about their exposure levels but I'd like to list a few I've noticed anyway, maybe it'll help.

1. Passively communicating under social or interpersonal assumptions. Basically, people who aren't on your side slither through conversations letting their true intentions fly under the radar because it is typically considered wrong or inappropriate to think what they think. They get away with it because it is also inappropriate to jump to conclusions/prematurely accuse/falsely blame someone for being wrong when they aren't so those who live by the rules and do the right thing find themselves with their hands tied while those who don't use the idea that they are subject to those rules to be interpreted as abiding by them and as long as they keep up the fantasy the rules prevent their true nature from being acted on. You'll probably find that there are at least a few people close to you who do this and that the fact that you care for them makes it harder to deal with than it already is. Remember, we're not just talking about crimes against government regulation, but ulterior motives people have when interacting with you that are contrary to the expectations most live by.

2. Pushing the limits of the social contract. There are certain things associated with interactions. There are certain ways that people act when they are friends or when they are enemies. Some fans of intolerance learn about them and make sure they never technically step over them while getting as close to it as possible. When a friend does this they are not your friend but they've just put you in the position of having to decide if you want to do the wrong thing by treating them as an enemy without being able to confirm it or if you want to treat an enemy as a friend to your own detriment. This happens quite a lot more than most people seem to notice and I've witnessed it on countless occasions. The harm that it causes is real but in this case ignorance is not bliss for the victims.

3. Implications, implications, implications and more implications. The intolerant will often say something with an implication a few steps back leaving you with a surface level compliment or normal sounding speech pattern but biting you in the ass when you get off the phone or done with the conversation. Implications are real, they are the deeper level foundations or causes of the meaning conveyed in a communication. When you accept the presentation but miss the implication it seeps into mind anyway because it was part of the presentation you did accept but you don't notice the negative impact it is having on you until the symptoms arise because you originally missed the other part of the presentation, the implication.

4. Putting it all together. It is assumed that someone who is a friend isn't acting against you because their friendship filters their interactions even though it is possible for a person to both be your friend and not be your friend in different situations. The interpretation of their friendship leads to the social contract of compatibility, support and mutual self interest applying to the interactions you have with them. So what they do is find a flaw in something you said and suggest you change it. However, they imply that you did something wrong leaving you feeling defensive or sounding defensive which is wrong because you have no reason to defend yourself, you're with a friend after all. The problem is that they are not your friend in those moments and instead are acting through the assumption that they are based on other interactions. Even if you realized this which is hard to do in the moment you'd still be bound by the social contract to not call them on it because you can't confirm they aren't your friend because of the assumption being acted through. If their implication had been explicit then they might have just insulted you and you'd be able to respond accordingly but as it was implicit the interpretation of friendliness stands and their true purpose of making you feel like you're wrong is accomplished. This is the difference between a friend watching your back and somehow making things worse while getting credit for watching your back. Once it happens it is almost impossible to trace the damage they caused to them but that doesn't mean it isn't real, just that they got away with it. If you try to talk with people about it you'll notice the best case is that they tolerate your perspective but we all know that isn't the same as them taking your side and they won't because the supposed friend who got you got away with it so they can't act off of the truth any more than you can.
Nathan Enns